Monday, January 30, 2012


My parents taught me to...

(not a seed to judge)

Let it grow...

cultivate with patience...
 water it with  clean intention...

so that the fruits it bears will be good and healthy !

A full grown and healthy  heart has no room for judgment

We all know that it is so easy to judge.  
We ask someone about someone else and out comes the judgment:
"He's a thief,"
"He's a liar,"
"She's a disgrace to her family", etc.. 
But hey!

Do we have the right to make that judgment?
Do we  know the circumstances surrounding the act?

 When I was a kid, for me all fruit trees looked pretty much the same. They all had leaves, branches , roots, etc. The only time I could really identify the tree was when there were oranges on one and mangoes on another. 

Our parents have nurtured us with much love in the heart. So we would think too that the world would treat us the same. All people have a heart and therefore we expect them to offer the same love like what our parents have. We expect people to be good coz we gave them goodness.. but in the course of our journey, a lot of people misjudged us based on what they have seen or heard outside, without knowing our real self. 

Like a tree,
people judged others on the  outside, 
before the fruit is yet to  come out.

It is like that when we judge. According to Fr. Steve, we do not know all the circumstances that lead to an act. People are like iceberg, 90% are hidden from sight. The fruit that show, good or bad are indications of what lies beneath the surface but we can never really know a person until they share their experiences.

Let's leave that job up to GOD

      Instead of judging  others....
Let that full grown tree of love resides in your  heart 
and welcome the sunlight of peace 
to shine upon it !

It is always dangerous to judge a person. Do you guys agree? well, I do :)

Saturday, January 28, 2012

What is love ???????


    Many believe love is a sensation that magically
    generates when Mr. or Ms. Right appears. No                     wonder so many people are single.

A few years ago, I spoke to a group of some friends of mine about the Jewish idea of love.

"Someone define love," I said.

No response.

"Doesn't anyone want to try?" I asked.

Still no response.

"Tell you what: I'll define it, and you raise your hands if you agree. Okay?"


"Okay. Love is that feeling you get when you meet the right person."

Every hand went up. And I thought, Oye.

This is how many people approach a relationship. Consciously or unconsciously, they believe love is a sensation (based on physical and emotional attraction) that magically, spontaneously generates when Mr. or Ms. Right appears. And just as easily, it can spontaneously degenerate when the magic "just isn't there" anymore. You fall in love, and you can fall out of it.

The key word is passivity. Erich Fromm, in his famous treatise "The Art of Loving," noted the sad consequence of this misconception: "There is hardly any activity, any enterprise, which is started with such tremendous hopes and expectations, and yet, which fails so regularly, as love."

So what is love ― real, lasting love?

Love is the attachment that results from deeply appreciating another's goodness.

Love is the result of appreciating another's goodness.

The word "goodness" may surprise you. After all, most love stories don't feature a couple enraptured with each other's ethics. ("I'm captivated by your values!" he told her passionately. "And I've never met a man with such morals!" she cooed.) But in her study of real-life successful marriages (The Good Marriage: How and Why Love Lasts).
To the Jewish mind, it isn't unexpected at all. What we value most in ourselves, we value most in others. God created us to see ourselves as good (hence our need to either rationalize or regret our wrongdoings). So, too, we seek goodness in others. Nice looks, an engaging personality, intelligence, and talent (all of which count for something) may attract you, but goodness is what moves you to love.

Opening Yourself to Others

The effect of genuine, other-oriented giving is profound. It allows you into another person's world and opens you up to perceiving his or her goodness. At the same time, it means investing part of yourself in the other, enabling you to love this person as you love yourself.
The more you give, the more you love.
Many years ago, I met a woman whom I found very unpleasant. So I decided to try out the "giving leads to love" theory. One day I invited her for dinner. A few days later I offered to help her with a personal problem. On another occasion I read something she'd written and offered feedback and praise. Today we have a warm relationship. The more you give, the more you love. This is why your parents (who've given you more than you'll ever know) undoubtedly love you more than you love them, and you, in turn, will love your own children more than they'll love you.
Because deep, intimate love emanates from knowledge and giving, it comes not overnight but over time ― which nearly always means after marriage. The intensity many couples feel before marrying is usually great affection boosted by commonality, chemistry, and anticipation. These may be the seeds of love, but they have yet to sprout. On the wedding day, emotions run high, but true love should be at its lowest, because it will hopefully always be growing, as husband and wife give more and more to each other.

A woman I know once explained why she's been happily married for 25 years. "A relationship has its ups and downs," she told me. "The downs can be really low ― and when you're in one, you have three choices: Leave, stay in a loveless marriage, or choose to love your spouse."

Friday, January 27, 2012

Are Your Friends Here for a Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime?

Many of us are fortunate enough to have friends who are a consistent part of our lives throughout all our ups and downs. However, sometimes others we consider friends appear to enter, then depart from our lives for reasons we try to, but don't always, understand. This piece nicely explains the flow of people in and out of our lives.

                                    It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.

 Then people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons: things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.

Sunday, January 1, 2012


Everyone needs and wants ...

Why do we want to
fall in love ,
When we know
it will only hurt in the END?

Love transforms everything

Though several people say love is prone to pain, still we want to take the risk and continue on loving.

Why is this so?
Why do we keep on loving after all the heartaches we have experienced?

It is because…

Love heals our wounds and makes us whole once more

There is deep peace and accord deep in our hearts. We can experience it, and see the world through the eyes of our heart.  This is the reason why a person has to love once more despite of getting hurt. 

Our hearts have power to change darkness to light, sadness to happiness

That is the power of heart, the miracle of love.

We read several quotes, mostly from facebook status, saying: 

“The heart
is not always right
 it is being placed
at the left side of our chest”.

Do you agree?

Let us try to see and experience the world through our heart. (The center of our heart is in the middle of our chest)

When I was in my teen years, I often wonder why the heart symbolizes love.  Why it is always associated with HEART and not liver, feet, head, hands, or any part of our human body. Are you not wondering the same? Me, has wondered a lot.. until one day I recognized that:

-          is the CORE of our human body. If we don’t have a HEART, we are nothing but dead person
-          is the CORE of our existence. Without LOVE, our existence has no meaning at all, for the purpose of our life is “to love and to be loved”.

It was then when I start looking things through my heart that I was able to understand the meaning of it. In the presence of love, there is no misunderstanding. There will be peace instead of greediness and war.  THAT IS THE POWER OF OUR HEART!

If all of us look at things
through our heart
we can feel …
Love and Peace


         What has happened to our  world? Is there any chance for Peace?
                               “ This is where Love and Peace group has come about "

This group was created by:

Sometime in Aug. 24, 2010, Love and Peace   on the Earth group was created by
Yvette Filion and Sachin Ghalot in hopes to spread Love and Peace on the Earth.

“Peace is not merely a distant goal that we seek, but a means by which we arrive at that goal.”

The objective of this group is to create a better understanding for the real meaning of Love & Peace. So, my hopes are for all members to please participate and contribute your thoughts and comments on the group's wall and have fun while you're at it :)

Much Love and Peace be to ALL. From my heart to yours, my deep gratitude for being here in this group and sharing with ALL your heart and giving out your precious time to spread Love and Peace.


Just Peace

Peace has always been among humanity's highest values--for some, supreme.


"Peace at any price."
"The most disadvantageous peace is better than the most just war."
"Peace is more important than all justice."
"I prefer the most unjust peace to the justest war that was ever waged."
"There never was a good war or a bad peace."

Yet, we agree little on what is peace. Perhaps the most popular (Western) view is as an absence of dissension, violence, or war, a meaning found in the New Testament and possibly an original meaning of the Greek word for peace, Irene.

Peace, however, is also seen as concord, or harmony and tranquility. It is viewed as peace of mind or serenity, especially in the East. It is defined as a state of law or civil government, a state of justice or goodness, a balance or equilibrium of Powers.

Such meanings of peace function at different levels. Peace may be opposed to or an opposite of antagonistic conflict, violence, or war. It may refer to an internal state (of mind or of nations) or to external relations. Or it may be narrow in conception, referring to specific relations in a particular situation (like a peace treaty), or overarching, covering a whole society (as in a world peace). Peace may be a dichotomy (it exists or it does not) or continuous, passive or active, empirical or abstract, descriptive or normative, or positive or negative.

The problem is, of course, that peace derives its meaning and qualities within a theory or framework. Christian, Hindu, or Buddhist will see peace differently, as will pacifist or internationalist. Socialist, fascist, and libertarian have different perspectives, as do power or idealistic theorists of international relations. In this diversity of meanings, peace is no different from such concepts as justice, freedom, equality, power, conflict, class, and, indeed, any other concept.

All concepts are defined within a theory or cognitive framework--what I have called elsewhere a perspective.Through a perspective peace is endowed with meaning by being linked to other concepts within a particular perception of reality; and by its relationship to ideas or assumptions about violence, history, divine grace, justice. Peace is thereby locked into a descriptive or explanatory view of our reality and each other.